DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my wife for 23 years. We have three kids and are in our early 40s. My wife has always struggled with her weight, but two years ago she started a plan and has been successful. Her weight loss has prompted me to notice her more, and I’ve noticed as I’ve paid more attent ion to her in the last few years that she has a wandering eye. I think it is disrespectful. ...read more read less